The Seventy-First Question: Evelyn "Champagne" King Would Love This
Not ashamed to say I really enjoy that song.
Couldn’t be more thrilled about the setting from which I’m emailing you all today. On my couch, with an iced coffee, screens set up for Week 1 of the NFL and the men’s final of the US Open. Today is always one of my favorite days in sports fandom.
And I’ve got a lot else on my plate today, so just gonna drop in here with your question and dip out.
Question #71
I’m reading the new book The Rules We Live By from Destyn A’Dante Land.
It’s an emotional and vulnerable walk through Destyn’s journey to define his manhood (a journey that, arguably, has no destination). The chapter I just finished sparked this week’s question.
Describe your internal voice of shame.
Many of us have what we call the “inner critic” or internal monologue of negative self-talk. Much of what those talking points are tend to come from a place of shame and guilt (important to note those are two different things). Shame is what I want to explore this week.
What are you ashamed of? Where did you learn to be ashamed of this?
What has this shame held you back from?
Have you compensated for this sense of shame in some way? How has doing that made you feel?
How has shame made you feel? What are the physical sensations and emotional responses?
How could you unlearn this feeling or lesson? What would it take?
This one is going to be uncomfortable. Lean into it. Don’t resist (#callback).
See you next Sunday.